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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel everyone in this thread.  I am in big law and there is a lot of pressure for everything to be "business as usual" and my husband is in consulting.  We have three kids -- 5, 2, and 10 months.  We have an au pair, but she can't handle all three on her own (she normally just has the 10 month old and the 2 year old half days).  It is a disaster with help I can't even imagine having no help.  I love my kids so much, but have never ever had a time in life where I wish I was single and childless!  [/quote]

With all due respect, there’s no reason the au pair can’t handle all three while you work. SAHMs do this every day. She should be able to manage while you work, that’s her job! You aren’t demanding too much. Hang in there. [/quote]

She's a freaking au pair, not a SAHM! God. An au pair is a teenager. Young adult at most. What is wrong with you? A big law employee is working 10-12 hour days. Plus a spouse in consulting. That's not au pair-level child care.[/quote]

She is an employee, and many au pairs deal with three kids routinely.[/quote]

NP but you’re kind of ridiculous. Her au pair clearly did not sign up for this and this is sudden so that is irrelevant. She’s gone from probably having 2-3 hours of quiet time during nap to zero. She also can just leave and go home at anytime if she wants, this isn’t indentured servitude despite what many may think, and many au pairs may not want to be here under these circumstances ruining all travel plans / social distancing. These are also young kids that don’t understand why mommy and daddy are at home but can’t play with them, are out of their normal routine and may be extra whiny/emotional/difficult. I have this same problem, OP, my very young kids cry every time they see me. Sure I could just let them all be, but I feel horribly guilty if I do, in part because it’s exhausting and not what the au pair signed up for, and also because they are babies!  people need to be a little bit understanding in this time.[/quote]

Anyone using an an pair is now getting what they paid for.  Au pairs are younger girls who typically don’t have the life experiences or even childcare experience to effectively manage three kids during a crisis.  Sure there may be exceptions but most of us can probably think back to when we were 22 and know we weren’t mature enough.

The only reason most people use an au pair is because it’s cheap.  Now many parents are dealing with the consequences of this.  [/quote]

Daycares are closed lady, having an au pair right now looks like the smart move! Also, those are tough ages and way outnumbered. I would not be able to handle that gracefully either and I have two young kids of my own.

Also what is your alternative? A parent that stays home? Because a nanny might be great and all but it’s still confusing AF for young kids why their parents are home and can’t play with them.[/quote]

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