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[quote=Anonymous]I'm the PP who said I don't especially want my child to live with me after 18.  I assume she will do what I did: go to college, occasionally come home in the summers, get a job after college in whatever city she chooses and get an apartment there, probably with roommates.

After 18, I lived in the dorms and in apartments just off campus with 1-4 roommates to save money.  I occasionally lived alone in tiny, crappy places.  Which builds character and sets expectations low so that when you're actually house hunting, you're not coming from a place of never actually having lived without granite and stainless steel appliances.  You learn to see past that cosmetic stuff and see the bones of an apartment or house. You learn how to fix stuff (or who to call to fix it.)

Plus I want my daughter to be independent.  Making her own meals, doing her own laundry, having friends and boyfriends over, not relying on me at a time when she should be building self-reliance.  I don't want her having some weird stunted extended childhood because she never has to do things herself.

Of course I would never let her be homeless or anything.  But my parents expected us to live on our own, and I think it was good for me.[/quote]

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