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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When we had kids, DW became a SAHM and our discussion was always that she’d return to the workforce at some point.  It’s now 15 years later, kids are in high school, and she is working part-time.  I just did our taxes and she only earned $18k last year - I am a GS-15 so by no means a rainmaker.  We are behind on savings, college 529, etc and I’m tired of having to agonize over every financial decision because our finances are so precarious.  DW has a Masters and could be making $60-70K full time but doesn’t want to - she has many stay at home friends who are married to rainmakers, but that’s not me.  I told her tonight that I’m at my wits end and she needs to step up.  She doesn’t want to work full time - neither do I but I suck it up for the family.  I’m very frustrated and can’t get DW to pick up the slack.  I am very involved at home and with the kids so she has supper there.  How can I make her understand that we can’t always get what we want?!?[/quote]

Women should realize that you cannot become a SAHM with a low earning spouse and be happy. Even with two working spouses, people are struggling to meet ends. It is also worthwhile to make a decision to not have kids or have only 1 kid if you cannot live frugally. Yesterday there was a divorced woman on DCUM who was very happy that she only had one kid.  That may be the way to go for low earners...[/quote]

My husband was low income (still not high but we are fine on it) and it hasn't been an issue saving for retirement, college, and what ever else comes up as we have always lived under our means and kept our mortgage very low (and we pay extra each month).  He is not low earning.  They have plenty of income.[/quote]

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