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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hope OP is ready for the 4 month sleep regression. And also the fun bouts of childhood illnesses that arrive when the child enters preschool or daycare and starts getting the flu, RSV, roseola, etc. And also the difficulties that arise when that sweet infant turns into a feisty, difficult two year old. My sister had a really easy infant like the OP so they decided to go for two under two and now he’s two and an absolute nightmare and she’s struggling. Easy babies don’t stay easy babies. But it sounds like with all the support and flexibility she has they will
be fine, many people can’t work part time and don’t have family to help them. [/quote]

OP here. I know not every stage will be easy. We know that our next child could be difficult. We know sleep issues will come up, but we are pro sleep training. I have had friends though who had super easy kids in general. I think it all depends. [/quote]

Being pro sleep training does not mean your baby will sleep train successfully or that it will continue to work. It really bothers me when parents who have young infants who sleep trained well and act smug about it. First of all, kids are not dogs. Just because your 3 month old sleep trained well doesn’t mean anything for the long term. It just means you get more sleep for now, until your child gets older and enters a sleep regression, or starts having nightmares and coming into your bed, or gets the stomach flu, or becomes mobile and starts getting out of the toddler bed, etc. Parenting is a long game. And we all have our challenges. I’ve seen four year olds who sleep trained well refuse to toilet train and still poop in diapers. We all have our parenting challenges—if sleep isn’t yours, for now, consider yourself lucky and don’t be surprised if that changes. [/quote]

+1. This. We sleep trained both kids and the older one slept through by 9 months. The younger child is now 21 months and wakes up at least once if not twice. You can do the exact same thing and the outcome is different. AND, now the four year old refuses to sleep by herself and I am sleeping with her. If we leave her alone, she screams and comes into our bedroom and will wake up her younger brother who is in our room. [/quote]

You're creating that disaster for yourself. Not OP but mom that sleep trained both of her kids who are now 3 and 1. Both have slept through the night 95% of the time since 2-3 months old. We do not allow our children in our bed and if my child screams because he refuses to sleep, he screams. We do not give into tantrums because that shows him crying and throwing a tantrum will ge them what he wants. Both kids are showered with love and very happy, but they are well disciplined and know boundaries. The issue with many these days is kids don't know boundaries because parents give in or want to be friends. [/quote]

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