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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry if I wasn't clear. My partner had an affair. I only discovered because I saw their texts. We decided to try counseling. Partner has yet to apologize or admit they were wrong.

On first visit, the therapist said they were not in a position to make judgement on whether the affair was wrong.

I need there to be an admission and recognition of wrongdoing in order to proceed toward forgiveness.

I was raised that you apologize when you're wrong.[/quote]
[b]Are you saying that your partner must admit and recognize wrongdoing? Because that is part of the purpose of the therapy[/b]. You are putting the cart before the horse. And, most likely, your partner feels that there are things for which you must apologize, admit and recognize as wrongdoing also.

Or are you saying the therapist must recognize the wrongdoing for you to proceed? Because that is what your title says, but it seems to be focused on the wrong person.

Maybe you should try individual counseling first. It is not wrong, by the way, to decide that you will not forgive. Or, to forgive, but not stay in the relationship. [/quote]

If your spouse needs therapy to recognize that an affair is wrong, the marriage is  already over. Op, don't waste your time.[/quote]

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