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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay well some hard truths. I don’t know. I feel like breaking down and crying. All of this is difficult and I’m doing the best I can all of it on my back. He is in a great school and is thriving but I can’t compete. I mean holding onto my job and while the pay increase isn’t viable- I have telework and many of vacation days. I’m not sure I can take much more and I feel like I’m making the worst decision of my life having us here. Everything else doesn’t work out financially for me- moving or owning a car and the maintenance it would take to get us back and forth. [/quote]

I am a single mom myself and have been for years and unlike the other posters I will tell you the hard truth - yes, you are making a mistake.

You have lto start viewing your DS and yourself as a family and realize this is your kid’s childhood. This will be his memories and his growing up experience. And growing up without a bedroom in a little basement apartment and being a “have not” for years is not good.  The cost of everything costs more downtown from the cost of utilities, to groceries, to a cup of coffee and those costs will continue to go up.

[b]Stability in childhood is a huge factor in a child’s long term success and not having a home that offered him a bedroom isn’t stable. It gives a sense of temporary and not being settled.[/b]

But they do. And you don’t know or understand because you missed out. They confer a sense a individual space and belonging. They invoke the idea of permanency. Not having one doesn’t mean you were ok it just means you didn’t know any better. Your life could have been very different with the stability of place and sense of belonging. You have the same issue that the OP does - not able to see past their own circumstance and understand that their is a better way and that things could be different.

You can find a new place that has good schools where your child will thrive, where you can set up a home and will have decent commute options. You can expand your professional options for a larger income. But to do all that requires you to stop thinking you are stuck and the only option you have is living in Capital Hill.[/quote]

Bedrooms do not confer a sense of stability to children.  Having parents (or parent) committed to them, and their welfare, does.  OP isn’t homeless, and her child is in a loving home.  That is enough.

- PP whose childhood consisted of sleeping on LR couches[/quote][/quote]

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