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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my parent's estate finally settled most of my siblings/I were pissed that they had about a million $$$. Both were lucky that they had great pensions/healthcare but and aged in place but this was accomplished by fighting them on paying for each increasing level of care they needed (which became 24/365 at end.) For way too long they relied on us to do doctor appts, personal care, errands. While that sounds simple it was on top of us all working, raising kids, having our own needs. We kept telling them that they'd worked for as long as they did to allow their dream of staying in their own home and it was their reward-not meant for us to inherit. Their legacy is that by the end there was so much acrimony among the 'kids' that few of us keep in touch and a million split 7 ways was not worth this OR seeing them suffer rather than pay for adequate care.[/quote]

My parents have 100K left. 100K! The rest is in the house they are insisting on staying in, that's blowing through that 100K at an alarming rate. [/quote]

They are better off enjoying it and going into a medicaid nursing home.[/quote]

They scream ‘no nursing home’, ‘not moving’, etc. That’s the point you are deliberately missing. The reality is, if they looked at other options, they could have it all - a great place to live, money in the bank to afford whatever care they want, and family around to help them with all their needs. That’s what they say they want too! They just refuse to make the change to get there. I get the concept of fear, but it’s an emotion, not reality.[/quote]

We just did it.  I took care of my MIL for a year and then put her in.  She screamed about moving to our home.  She screamed about a nursing home but I couldn't do the 24/7 care anymore with young kids.  I wouldn't want it either.  But, I had to do what was best for her and I couldn't keep her safe.[/quote]

I”m the PP. GOOD FOR YOU!! This was the right thing to do.[/quote]

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