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[quote=Anonymous]Y'all ain't seeing that money again, but I'm sure everyone knows that.

And y'all know that FIL's gonna be back asking for money. If he's told no there's gonna be some guilt tripping.

If he decides/you agree to giving the money, pay the mechanic directly. If it's some random Joe who's not even a garage mechanic, run. There ain't no car problem.

There's also a more than decent chance that FIL owes money to some folks who don't take credit cards or personal checks (in addition to the actual debt that the mechanic owes.) And by some folks, I mean some friends of Walter, Tony, or Marlo.

Your husband is dealing with all sorts of feelings. Thing is, you shouldn't make it all about your feelings -- but your feelings still matter. I'd ask him to hold back on a similar purchase of $500 or so (e.g. a couple of new golf clubs, some new optional clothes, etc.)  It's just play money but on something other than a "toy for him." I may also ask to have more control over the FIL's finances; that might scare him off.

If there's repeated funnelings of $$$$ to the FIL that is another issue entirely and you will need to take steps to protect yourself and the kids from irresponsible spending DH.

Poster who said this is like an old injury causing a $500 bill made a good point. Would you be this upset over a flat tire, a foot injury, etc.?

TBH, I'm more than a little worried that he refuses to pay the mechanic directly. Why on earth would he refuse to do that? [/quote]

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