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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will dissent.  I was incapacitated after my vaginal births.  To doctors I had minor complication.  To my vagina, these were MAJOR things like a huge tear.  I could not walk very far.  No way I could have worked.  I was not strolling to Starbucks to gaze at the baby and drink lattes.  I was in MEDICAL recovery, the same way a dude who has a hernia operation is.  Some of them are up and about a day or 2 later, some of them take weeks to recover.  Yet, The Dude is covered with paid time off.  My vagina was given no such time.

It doesn't hurt to ask.  I'd do it.[/quote]

+1 and I love your post PP! I had from the outside view, a healthy straightforward vaginal delivery. From my view, I had a 2nd degree tear and lacerations that made it very difficult to walk the first two weeks. OP, even if all goes well will still be recovering from a medical event. Not just the birth, but also the 9 months of growing an entirely new human and then figuring out how to keep it alive those first hazy months.

No one is requiring people to donate their leave to her specifically, but I can imagine (especially been there done that women who are with it) preferring to give and hour or two as they can over donating to an office baby shower gift. [/quote]

+1  I am 10 months postpartum and still amazed at how little regard our society has for women who give birth.  Saying a woman who has been told by her doctors that she needs time off of work to recover from childbirth should not allowed to take a particular type of leave (in this case, donated leave) that is available to someone else with a different medical condition is textbook sex discrimination.  Especially since childbirth typically happens early in a woman's career, before she can a accrue a ton of leave.  The whole "but a baby is a choice" thing is so stupid.  Why do people insist on making it impossible for people to have babies?  We do actually need people to have babies.  Otherwise, enjoy your Children of Men dystopia folks.

That being said OP I agree that for your own benefit find out what the norms are in your workplace.  [/quote]
OP had said that she will take the time off, regardless of whether anyone donates leave. The amount of time off she will take to recover will not be affected by donations. The only thing that will be affected is her wallet. She would basically be asking people to please skip a day off with their own families, in order to put some extra money in her bank account.[/quote]
It's recovery from CHILDBIRTH. A major medical event for which the entire world agrees it takes 6 weeks to recover. OP only has enough leave to cover 2 weeks. TWO. If she asks for donations she may scrape together another week or two. [b]It's not like she's asking people to fund her vacation [/b]or even the "bonding time" with the new baby. JFC![/quote]

Actually, it is exactly like that (or can be).  As the PP indicated, OP is going to take leave, whether it's unpaid or not.  Donated leave is not going to extend her leave time, and put an extra day's pay in her pocket.  Money is fungible, and that donated day or two of salary can but used for any number of things . . . including vacation.

And I should say that I'd probably donate a day if I had it.  But I'd be doing so to protest archaic maternity leave policies, not to provide much-needed extra time off.  [/quote]

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