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My parents were the same generation as yours and they definitely were reading books about parenting. I remember seeing the Dr. Spock book and at least two others whose names and authors I don’t remember. I was the oldest kid, so I remember my parents reading these books as my younger siblings were born. 
[/quote] Dr. Spock, that bastard, ruined a whole generation of parents. My parents were born in 50s and I was born in 75.  They read Dr. Spock who preached that they would spoil kids if you picked a baby up when it cried and in general there was a fear of spoiling a kid.

My parents worked very hard and were not home most of the day and when they were home they did chores.  I got little attention from my parents.  They never played with me.  From the elementary school age I walked to school and back and was home alone with a latch key.

We spent our days playing outside, roaming streets, etc.  I think it was neglectful to let little kids roam around like that, I had a couple of close calls. I learnt to rely on myself only and also didn't feel loved. I resented lack of direction from my parents, especially when it came to education and college.

I ended up doing well, but I'm doing x 100 more for my DC.[/quote]

I don't think you've read Dr. Spock's book.  He went against the conventional wisdom of the time by encouraging *more* flexibility and affection.  I had the latest edition of the D. Spock book a few years ago, and it specifically says you *don't* spoil a baby by picking it up when it cries.  There was a large fear of "spoiling" children, but that was also a holdover from earlier generations of parents.  
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