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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most of those decisions that you agonize over don’t matter.[/quote]

This is SO TRUE.[/quote]

+10000000, the most true thing on here. Except vaccination. While it won't matter much to your own kids you're a giant d if you don't do it.

Other things,

1) +1 on c sections being awesome. But I know people who loved natural birth. Know there isnt much you can do to dictate this with your first baby (you have more choices generally with #2 based on history) but ask women in your family about propensity towards pelvic floor issues.

2) Feed your baby however you want. The person this will primarily effect is you so choose accordingly
. Breastfeeding is (from what I've heard) very personally rewarding and creates a special bond. Formula feeding makes equitable distribution of baby care easier and statistically gets babies sleeping through the night more quickly. Breastfeeding is physically taxing and formula is pretty expensive. Make the choice that best fits your own happiness because that is something far far far more impacted by this choice than your child's health or well being. Kid will be fine either way!

3) Make sure your husband and/or baby daddy doesnt suck. This will impact your experience of child rearing more than any other thing in your life, including money. Seriously it's better to be a single mom than to have a crappy spouse in many cases.

4) Hold your baby, love your baby, dont shake your baby and don't fall asleep drunk next to them on a mattress with a lot of blankets and you'll be fine. What matters most is loving them and making sure they are being touched and held regularly (not necessarily by you all the time!). Everything else is noise and the variety of life experience.[/quote]

This poster is spot on (mom of college-bound kid, and I seem to vaguely recall I was in the "yay natural birth"
 camp and also breastfed, but it's not important now). Also, high-five about it being easier to be single than have a crappy co-parent. [/quote]

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