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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Last para above. [/quote]

Nope.

I'm out. Finito. Dropping the rope. [/quote]

Didn't get the sympathy you were looking for, huh?[/quote]

No, that’s not the issue.

It’s simply that this exchange has made me realize that I’m not cut out for this. I don’t enjoy even the peripheral role I play in parenting these kids, and I really don’t enjoy having to navigate the murky waters that are a part of this situation.

I love my DH to bits - but I can’t find that same level of love for his kids. I know I’ll get beat to a pulp for saying that, but it’s the truth. Despite what folks seem to think, I really did try my best for the past few years and, unfortunately, think it’s time to admit that I’ve failed. [/quote]

OP I've been one of the posters who is hard on you here ... but guess what, this is the BEST post you have made!  It's TOTALLY OK! that you don't love his kids! You don't have to love his kids!

As a former step-kid and a soon-to-be-divorced mom who is contemplated possible stepparents in my child's future, here is what I think the role of a stepmother is:

- Create a welcoming space for the kids 
- Support their biological parent in parenting them

That's it.  You don't have to love them. Or even like them that much.  [/quote]

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