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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here.  So a serious question for the women AP’s:  are there any traits you see in men who will cheat on their spouses vs. divorcing?  I guess are there certain traits/ careers/ mindset that you find common in those men?  Again, if they are unhappy in a marriage, they can divorce and so just trying to see if there’s any way to identify those men in advance.[/quote]

The common trait is that they are looking to be desired and they want excitement. I’ve been with men who regularly have sex with their wife, but they describe it as obligatory, marital sex.  What they aren’t looking for is a wife, and what I don’t want to be is a wife. Most are happy with the kids and wife portion, but long for the carefree, wild sex and excitement. [/quote]

Cheater here, this is exactly it.  The marital only in one position and no more than once a week sex my wife is willing but doesn't want is my alternative.  A fleeting moment of fun and passion again before I die is what this is about, nothing more.  If my wife wanted to spice up the bedroom, I wouldnt affair.  As my AP says, my wife could put her out of business[/quote]

So why don’t you leave your wife since it will be difficult to get NRE type sex in a marriage ?  You’ll find someone who fits your needs better.

Also, how do we figure out before marriage that a man can cheat in a marriage?  I am not judging you but if that is what we don’t for our kids, there’s got to be a way to do so.  [/quote]

You don't. I'm one of the PPs whose husband cheated and was nerdy etc. I'm not sure HE knew he had it in him until he did it, so there was no way for me to know. You make decisions based on the best information you have in front of you at the time, it's not a system you can game. [/quote]

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