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That poster likely used her FIL's money to build a wing onto her house and then used her FIL's money to hire round the clock staff to take care of him.  I'm not sure how that's so different than if she had placed her FIL in a care facility.  Either way, he is getting his basic needs taken care of by staff.[/quote]

Wow, a lot of assumption and projecting.  Is it what YOU would have done, PP? That person said that THEY SPENT more on FIL's care than on their kids.

You and the person who assumed that this poster is "happy" to take FIL's SSI and whatnot are seriously human PO$. [/quote]

And by the way, i am NP,  haven't posted on this thread before. [/quote]

Reread what she said.  She built an addition onto her house that her FIL lives in and staffed it with round the clock caregivers.  Either she is filthy rich and using her own money or she is using her FIL's money.  Either way, staff is caring for him.  Op is visiting him much as one would do in a care facility.  She is not doing hands on heavy duty eldercare, she has a staff for that.  That is why this arrangement is such a joy for her.  If she were, herself, trying to wrestle a combative dementia patient into an adult diaper and responsible for making sure that he stayed clean and got to his appointments...I don't know that the situation would be such a win-win for her.[/quote]

But she made breakfast for him and dinner the night before.  She talks about it in subsequent posts.  Exactly how little do you think she's seeing him if she's making his dinner and watching him eat it, and making breakfast and watching him eat it.  You're upset because no one agrees with you so you now you are making crazy statements that make it sound like you're jealous.  If he would have caregivers at a facility and he has caregivers at her house, what does it matter to you?  She still sees him a lot more at her house than if he were at a facility.  Give it up.  You've already lost the battle and now you sound like a baby having a temper tantrum stomping your feet.

NP btw.[/quote]

I'm not upset at all.  She makes him meals on occasion and sits and watches him eat them.  When my dad was in a nursing home my family brought him food and sat with him while he ate it, too.  In fact, my mom visited my dad almost every day and I visited him a couple of times a week when I got off of work.  When we weren't there he had a staff to look out for him and the other residents for company 24/7 - he was never alone.

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