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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You guys know there is a middle ground between passively watching a child hit an adult with a shoe and screaming at them and threatening/following through on violence, right?[/quote]

PP absolutely but when you see that, your own rambunctious little one doesn’t seem so bad in comparison. So you let stuff go that you should not. My kid never did anything that extreme but I still fell into the “developmentally normal” trap instead of immediately correcting wild behavior. So while I may at first judge playground mom with 4 kids who corrects her kids for playing with swings the wrong way...she’s probably right or closer to it than me. 
Developmentally normal still belongs on a short leash. Parents are only hearing “it’s normal.” We are not communicating how to shape and mold behavior.[/quote]

OP back - so - maybe there IS a parenting shift taking place - it is not just me ranting here.  Has the pendulum now swung so that people judge the mom for correcting the kid?  To put it differently, if I see my kid acting poorly in gymnastics, and I go in and tell him to listen to the instructor or we are leaving, are people judging me for that?  [/quote]

Nanny here.  Yes, there has been a shift.

This is why I ask extensive questions during interviews.  I advocate self-control, self-discipline, built through constructive discipline that builds a child’s self-esteem and allows them to understand boundaries.

Yes, I’ve had random people who told me I’m too strict.  OTOH, I’ve had strangers tell me I’m too uninvolved.  My view is this: my job is to help them develop into competent adults, and that means understanding social cues and expectations.  If an adult chooses to shrug social expectations, that’s their choose, but it’s the distinction between choice and ignorance.  My charges will be able to choose.[/quote]

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