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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These kinds of dynamics are rarely totally one-sided, so my guess is that your family is part of the problem in that you’re unwilling to acknowledge.  That, in turn, makes your wife dig in even harder on not trying because she’s tired of taking the blame for everyone when you side with your family against her.[/quote]

It’s not that I’m taking my family’s side, I’m trying to tell her she’s the problem. We use to work together and our coworkers said the same thing about her because she would sit away from everyone during meetings and company events. At some point, she has to acknowledge her role in this.[/quote]

So you married her knowing this part of her personality and now are demanding she change because your family doesn’t like it?  Sounds like you’re the problem here.[/quote]

I don’t like it either. She should want to change it for me. I thought she would’ve grown as a person, but she’s too set in her ways. As far as my family goes, my family is close and we always have gatherings. It’s hard bringing her around because she doesn’t try to fit in. I’ve missed a lot of events for her sake just so she won’t be uncomfortable. I don’t know what else I can do.[/quote]

You married someone you dislike expecting she would change who she is to please you?[/quote]

And why should she have to "fit in" with your family?  [/quote]

Exactly. You marry each other - not their family. When my horrible sil remarked I shouldn't have married into their family I said, "I didn't nor are you on our marriage certificate".  Today the old bat is miserable and alone, no intentions of fitting in with something like that.[/quote]

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