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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happened with my parents too. It so hard especially when you have your own kids and job.  If you put yourself in the old persons shoes you'd likely be nasty too. First of all they are in pain,  tired, on meds, not getting exercise or much fun. They are basically on death row and feel angry, scared, helpless, depressed, disconnected, dealing with a lot of personal losses.[/quote]

Actually it doesn't happen to all elderly people.  My Grandmother who lived to 97 was still very positive and involved in everyday topics.  I never heard her say a bad word about anyone.  As she lay dying in hospital and in pain, the only thing she said to me was that I was such a good girl for coming to see her, thank you and God Bless to me. Same as my Grandfather who lived to 78.

My other Grandfather was an old grouch but then he was for most of his mid to older years.
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Life wears some people down, some people were always a little bit negative, some people don't age well.  [/b]

I think people have more empathy for teenagers because they are young and haven't been through life whereas older people have.  They know that life gets busy but they don't consider anyone else, they make so many demands and they aren't appreciate of things that are done for them.  If someone has dementia then that is part of the disease and can't be helped, however it seems that if a person was a glass half empty kind of person that that will be exacerbated in later years.
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There are so many options for elderly people.  They can still make an effort but some of them choose not to.  [/quote]

+1.  So well said.  People age differently, and it wears some people down more than others.  Some elderly people are lovely, while others are a nightmare[/b].[/quote]

I often think that miserable, selfish, self centered people become moreso in old age, and pleasant people who have had a good life - or at least a good attitude, don't feel owed, and are much more pleasant to be around, in old age. [/quote]

This.[/quote]

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