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[quote=Anonymous]I think this is narrow-minded. A caring, kind person with empathy will relate to what their partner is going through.

For eg A co-worker was just telling me that she can't wait for the step kids to be out of the house, she would hate her life if they came to live with her full time and it's much less enjoyable when they are in the house. She has three kids of her own but can't stand her new husband's children. In saying that I'm sure she understands how central parenting is to him, she just doesn't seem to care. Maturity doesn't automatically come with parenting regardless of what society tries to tell you.

The poster above points out a problem that can happen when you have kids and date someone with kids.  They turn out to be, like the woman in the example above, a very poor step-parent.  I realize that we do not know the whole story here.

However, in my experience when a woman cannot stand her step-children the issue is her and not them.  If we had more information, we could see why she views her three kids as enjoyable and cannot stand his kids.  Do his children set fires in her house, rob 7-Elevens when her back is turned?  Okay, I understand.

Does she just not like them as much as her kids?  Does she believe her kids are naturally better?  This line of questioning reveals the issue.  She expected that he wanted to help her raise her children (in addition to any help she gets from their father) while she would have nothing to do with his children.  He made a mistake his kids are now paying for every time they are with her.[/quote]

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