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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Space can 100% work if that is what she needs. A little breathing room and you are giving it because you love her and want to give your partner what she/he needs. 
It won't work if she is saying she needs something different and you are using it to punish or prove a point.

[b]A lot of men don't like hearing that a little more help or understanding will fix things in the bedroom[/b]. It requires a little more leaning in on their part and not always in ways they find enjoyable or want to. it may cut into their drinks after work or their golf weekend. It may cut into time you could be repairing a car or mowing the lawn. But here's the thing. If a pipe broke in your house tonight you would FIND time tomorrow to do what needed to be done to get the leak fixed and under control. You may push a meeting or work from home part of the day. You may call your brother and say you can't play cards tonight. You would find and make the time. 
Do at least that much for your wife. 
Yes, it won't happen overnight. You won't give space and help out and then she becomes a sex fiend tomorrow. But she will start to look at you differently. She will start to see you as a partner. Engaged, helpful, understanding. Someone she fell in love with and begin to ignite that fire again. The question you have to ask is do you want it to be lit and are you willing to help supply the timber needed to keep it going?[/quote]

You make it sound like men don't like hearing this because they are lazy or selfish. The reality is that we have trouble trusting that it will actually make a difference. (And hearing it from someone who thinks we're lazy or selfish doesn't exactly add to the trust.) It sounds like a self-serving excuse by the women involved and many men have had the experience of trying to shoulder more of the load without anything changing. [/quote]

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