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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The court's reasoning was because at the time of the divorce, she had taken a low paying job ($38k/yr). She has a BS in computer science. I don't know how much she makes now, but 3 years after the divorce, she was making $75k/year. Most people don't double their pay in 3 years, unless you were underpaid before.
Frankly, my husbands attorney should have asked for "potential income" to be considered based on her work experience and education.[/quote]

This is BS BS BS. unless you read the case full complaint, answer, and the financial findings as well as have the truth of what was promissed when  you are in nopostion to say her alimony is too freakin' much. Now I'm starting to hate stepmoms and I am probably going to be one. [/quote]
Actually, I have read it all. I requested all 175 pages of it. Got it in 4 days from the couty clerk. Have all the various orders and other legal paperwork from the lawyer. DH gave me full authority to deal with any legal issues. So I do know. And I have a BS in computer science, so I know what others in my field make. His lawyer was an idiot, and did not remotely question any of her claims. He should have noticed that she had a pay raise (general public knowledge that at a certain time of year EVERY year state employees get a raise). He let things slide. I wish I would have known DH when he was getting divorced because reading through the transcripts, things were said and asked that were not remotely legally admissable, and he did not stand up for himself at all. For instance, during testimony, the ex had DH's brothers wife testify. She said she heard from her husband that DH had got girlfriend after they separated. Not sure how any of that is remotely admissable - pure heresay. And DH did not bring up  that she too dated during their separation. He felt it wasn't relevant to the divorce. It wasn't, but neither was his dating after separation yet it got brought up. There was no affair that broke up the marriage. The marriage mutually was over and they both dated during the 3 years it took for the divorce to be finalized.

FWIW, I went through all the documents because I wanted to know the whole story. I know DH (or anyone for that matter) only gives their version of what happened. Then there's the other side's version. And somewhere in between is the truth. So there's things she claimed that I can totally see DH doing. And there's other things that I hear from MIL (who is good friends with ex) that solidify some of the things that he told me were issues. So I know based on what I've heard and read that she was a lazy slob, and he was a high strung workaholic. They were not remotely compatible and both are to blame for the divorce.

Not sure why this makes you want to hate stepmoms. [/quote]

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