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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, I do think it is a cautionary tale of what happens when you treat your child as an extension of yourself that must fill your holes of regret.

There are many parents out there who live vicariously through your child and pushing their kids to be overachievers. Like the lady in the other thread who flipped out over daughter's B.

This is a story for them, to see how damaging it is.

Maybe a bit for myself too. Something to think about next time my kid brings a bad grade or when I'm tempted to make decisions for DC.[/quote]

Really, cause I'm seeing it more as a cautionary tale for having a child with mental illness or having a parent who is overly critical POS. Both things are WAY more impactful (the first likely being the real deal). But you have your "moral" and are sticking to it.   Does mental illness run  in your family or your husband's family.  if not you will likely be ok whether or not you get stressed about Bs.

Drug abuse runs in mine, and I know how powerless any parenting approach is against those genetics. I can only do the best I can.  Husband was drug free, husbands brother was a life long addict (now clean).  Same loving decent parents.[/quote]

Let's just point out that the kid was not depressed until teenage years.  Who wouldn't be depressed with parents like these?  Did you know that studies have linked helicopter parenting to depression and anxiety in kids?

It's one thing to have a parent who criticizes you, it's another thing to have a parent who embarrasses you by coming to lunch every day in middle school, goes through your personal stuff and won't let you manage your own life.  I don't know which one is worse. [/quote]

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