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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are two roads to popularity. One road is to play the social aggression game where you curate your group of friends that you can control and flex your power by excluding others. This gives you an aura of desirability and perception of power. This kid falls apart when they lose their pack and move on in life.

The other road is the opposite one. The kid that includes the rest that are excluded and is polite to but ignores the queen bee ends up with a pack many times larger. This kid is actually desirable and has a lot of power. This kid can go anywhere.

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Neither should be orchestrated by the parents.  Teenagers can pick their own path and their own friends.  If you TEEN does not have any friends, then it's not everyone else's fault.  An entire school of 2800 kids are not actively excluding your kid.  Your kid is choosing to not engage, and that's fine.  My son is a junior and just started branching out socially.  He's fine.[/quote]

Are you always this obtuse? No one is saying it is anyone else's fault. We're saying that, unless there is a good reason, be kind. It really is not that hard. Many of have done it and ask our kids to do it.

And, yes, in the teen years parents are there to guide their kids and encourage them in positive ways. That is not "orchestration." Again, more excuses.[/quote]

My kids are kind. I still let them choose who they want to hang out with. We have a pretty full schedule, including just family time, and when free times pop up, my kids get to pick who to be with. They are also kind, caring and empathetic. [/quote]

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