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While some parents make mountains out of molehills, you need to remember that there are some manipulative teens out there, and also that this isn't your generation - this one is dealing with the reverb effects of social media, which is merciless because it shows all the other people having fun without you. Adults suffer from this as well. 
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This. The PP is right.

OP, I'm older (kid in college) and while I agree with you that some DCUM posters seem to go too far in wringing their hands over specific invitations sometimes...there are also other interactions and more serious exclusions that today can turn far more damaging than back in the day when spats or BFF dramas could just die out over a comparatively short time, or manipulative teens/tweens would just move on to another thing. Now, social media can keep drama alive, spread it to a nearly school-wide circle of kids, and amplify its effects greatly. Parents need to be aware of this and not dismiss it.

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What’s bonkers is that parents spend a huge mount of time dealing with issues that are caused by or at least exacerbated by social media instead of doing the actual parenting of not giving their kids smartphones. There truly is NO REASON your teen needs a smart phone or social media. None. [/quote]

I would rather my kids learn how to use social media properly rather than take it away completely and I think that’s good parenting.[/quote]

Agree 100%.

I get a kick out of the “there is absolutely no reason to have a smartphone or social media!  None!” people. How about communication?  Social interaction?  Keeping up with their friends?  Watching videos for FUN (oh, the horror!)?  My daughter uses hers as her alarm. And a phone to call her friends. And to text. And to check out her friends Instagram. And to look up fun art projects. And to binge watch Friends on Netflix.

You may not like the reasons, but that’s on you. There are plenty of reasons in this day and age to have a smartphone and social media.  I just monitor my daughters phone when necessary and talk about stuff that comes up as needed. [/quote]

You do realize that they can do these things on your phone.  Or many of them on an ipad that is used only at home/under supervision or on a home computer, again supervised.  Or  They don't need THEIR OWN PHONE to do these things.[/quote]

Right. Because I want to give my phone to my kids (I have 2 - I can’t imaging the fights over my phone) to my kids for hours at a time. Or have them fight over our 1 home computer because my 13 year old wants to listen to her music but my 10 year old is playing a video game.

Like I said - there are valid reasons for kids to have smartphones - you just don’t like them. [/quote]

LOL, no. I just think they are bad reasons, or not actually reasons. [b]You don't know how to manage your kids and your children don't know how to go through life without being an entitled ass if they fight over the phone, video games, music[/b], etc. I can only imagine how your kid will react if they have  a roommate at college.

Your children can have a great social life and be safe with a phone that makes calls and texts. We all go through without smartphones and they can too. And yes, of course your children will be exposed to harmful things when you're not around... the difference is that they won't have access 24/7 to a device that is bad for their mental health. They can't turn it off. Just look at the adults walking around heads buried in their phones while life goes on around them. When I go to a show, 50% of people are experiencing the thing through their phones. I mean, WTF. WAKE UP! Let your children live life with eyes wide open to the world around them! Don't give them a portal for bullies and pedos. You're spoiling your children.[/quote]

I guess all my friends and I just haven’t nailed parenting as you have. I can’t think of even one other family where the kids don’t fight over stuff like this. I fought with my brother ALL THE TIME. Silly me for thinking this was pretty normal among the tween/teen age group. [/quote]

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