Reply to Tween not invited by friends to trick or treat

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "Tween not invited by friends to trick or treat"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you can ask for Halloween but you are not going to break into this social group. You made your effort and for whatever reason it didn’t work. It may be something as simple as neighborhood. 
But the sooner your DD branches out into another group the better. Only speaking from experience. I know it’s hurtful and disappointing. [/quote]

This happened to us as well. It sucks, but you need to find a different group.  My daughter did - she had a new group in middle school and then another new one in high school (the middle school split). It took a while, but I'm glad she did.[/quote]

I know it's really hard to see your child feeling so hurt.

i just had this chat with my middle schooler, who is having a hard time realizing that her energy is better spent elsewhere.  I can't know the details of your daughter's interactions with this group, but in our case, my DD has been defining some larger friend group based on the lunch table (which is a self-selected group) - they tolerate her being there, and some of the girls are actively friendly to her, but it's like there is an orbit around a few queen bees, and she's on the outer periphery.  She does have close friends, who also sit there, but she and her close friends really need to move on before these other girls get mean about it.  (They already have a little bit.)  I told her that it's a question of maintaining her dignity not to complain about being left out, and that it would be better to spend her energy in a positive way branching out and broadening her horizons with girls who are a better match (but keeping the close friends who are also on that outer periphery).  In our case, my DD is being oddly stubborn about it and won't give up easily...it drives me nuts, but there's  only so much I can do.
  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics