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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of the comments on this thread are pretty dramatic. Yes, you can survive without a nanny. Daycare drop off/pick up is stressful, but Jesus, no one is dying. Kids are in bed by what, 8? How long does it take to prep for the next day? [/quote]

Later elementary school students stay up later than 8.  And if they do go to bed that early it is likely because they have to get up very early and their parents need to be up even earlier.  I have to be driving to work by 7 or I end up with and hour-and-a-half  commute from Alexandria to downtown DC.  DH leaves even earlier (6:30).  DH leaves work at 4:30 to relieve the nanny By 6 and I don’t get home until 8:00.  Without our nanny, we might not die but we’d probably wish we had.  I would have to get up at 5:00 to get myself ready, pack lunches, etc., get the kids ready and take the kids to before-care by 7:00.  The kids would do before-care, then school, then aftercare until DH could get them at 6, try to throw dinner on the table and get everyone to bed by himself since they would need to go to bed at like 7:00 to wake up the next day at 6am.  Hope they did homework at aftercare because otherwise we are screwed!

Instead my kids sleep in until 8, wake up to a hot breakfast on the table, and the nanny drives them to school at 8:45 then tidies up around the house, runs errands and preps dinner.  She picks everybody up and they do homework with individual attention and get to either go to an activity with friends or just relax around the house.  DH walks in at 6 to find kids bathed, with homework mostly done and dinner on the table.  They have a meal together, do the dishes together, then get to hang out at play until it’s time to get ready for bed.  I get home and we read for half an hour then say goodnight.  I have leftovers for dinner in my clean kitchen and watch tv with my husband for an hour then get a full night’s sleep most of the time.  It’s not a breeze but it’s doable and it doesn’t suck the joy out of our lives.[/quote]

This, this, this.

The FT WOHPs of elementary schoolers I know who aren’t still totally overwhelmed have nannies. You basically have to either have a very engaged SAHP or hire a nanny if you want to both work FT and have any quality of life. [/quote]

Oh, FFS. I know dozens of families with two working parents who are not totally overwhelmed and don't have nannies. It's a combination of not living somewhere stupid that requires 3-4 hours of commuting for one parent, having jobs with regular hours and perhaps some amount of flexibility and/or telework, and not holding one's family hostage to an insane schedule of travel sports and multiple activities. Of course you need a nanny if you're going to be gone for 13 hours a day like the PP, but plenty of us manage to hold our families together just fine. I mean, eating leftovers in a clean kitchen after only having seen their kids for 30 minutes in the entire day is not a life goal for most parents.

There are literally hundreds of threads where people post their morning and evening routines, weekly meal plans and time saving strategies.[/quote]

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