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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can’t believe how many people think his anger over her anxiety is reasonable.  She needs help for her anxiety and he needs help for anger.  How about “I don’t think they mind waiting, but if you’re that worried about it, I’ll pull over and go inside to get them” and then talk about her anxiety at a better time.  Anger over French fries is immature at best. [/quote]

First, he may not realize that her behavior is based in anxiety, he may only see that she’s constantly criticizing him and then lashing out when he gets upset about the criticism.  Second, to the extent he does appreciate that it’s anxiety-based, you don’t know that he hasn’t tried to talk to her about it before.  If OP has dug in on refusing to get treatment, he may be hitting his limit with being her punching bag.[/quote]

Still lots of benefit of the doubt for him and none for her. This entire thread has been a sad example of the different expectations and standards for men and women in relationships. [/quote]

Actually it's not about the sex of the person reacting, it's about the reaction. Getting huffy at someone for waiting for their fries is annoying.

It's not rational, it's silly. I bet the op reacts a lot like this in really minor situations. A person would have to be a saint not to eventually get angry at constant criticism. If op took some responsibility for their issues maybe they could work it out. As it is she wants to blame the dh. They won't get anywhere doing that. [/quote]

He got angry BEFORE the criticism.

OP, this is a bad forum for advice. See a professional. [/quote]

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