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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In general, the women who people perceive to be exclusive don't usually intend that. They are doing their thing with their friends with whom they are close. Their kids have been together for a long time because the moms are friends so they spend a lot of time together.

Which is not to say that they should not be more welcoming -- they should be. But I think often it's not about intentionally leaving anyone out as it is about being oblivious and not really giving much thought to how they are perceived and the vibe they give off.[/quote]

This.

Plus way too many women are afraid of interrupting,  or joining in or just generally putting them self out there over and over to the same group.  It's like if other moms don't fawn over you then you just stand back and act like you are being ignored.

And then there is the complaint of showing up once, no one went out of their way to be overly excited to greet you, so now they are all mean and stuck up and you are never going back!

Making friends takes time, and maybe a lot of time, like a year +.  You are too old to be fawned over.  Join in conversations, introduce yourself when you don't know someone and realize that all those tiny conversations and chit chat add up so don't avoid.  
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I think we are talking apples and oranges.  I agree with what you wrote.  I’m not OP, but I can relate to her post entirely.  There are people I know that although I’ve met them multiple times (and yes I do introduce myself even multiple times!) will pass by me without eye contact or a hello but clearly they have seen me.  Now, I’m not ms social butterfly but I’m not horribly boring/without friends.  I don’t have designer clothes or handbags or an expensive car but although I am sure their material belongings cost more than mine I look much better than they do (I know that sounds horrible but it’s true).  And I certainly have a position in the community and $$ equal or greater than theirs (again, I flinch when I write that bc it again sounds horrible snobby but again true).  My only conclusion is that some people are just rude. [/quote]

DP here.  I agree. The same Rude Moms who use gossip as "currency", because they know that is all they have - they have nothing else to offer, and their gossip is usually completely inaccurate, so their "currency" is bad, anyway.  Hilarious - like they have to have someone to look down on, or they lose their alleged "rank" - which they don't have anyway, but they are too dense too realize. They know they are completely dispensable, and about one cocktail party away from being at the bottom of the pile. To top it off, the other Rude Moms talk about each other when one is not present.  Then the Rude Moms have the audacity to look at the Nice Moms like "what is she doing here" - please girl, I could buy and sell you at a discount. The Nice Moms are missing absolutely nothing.

Rude Moms make complete asses of themselves, and they don't even know it.  Pathetic wannabes.  They usually have vocal fry, the latest handbag, look right through the other moms (who they nothing about), and pretend they are oblivious - of course they are not, it is so obvious, it is laughable. Give me Nice Moms who have an actual personality, their own interests,  their own style, are not total followers, are not socially stunted, and refuse to engage in gossip, any day.

Why on earth would anyone want to be associated or be seen with the pathetic Rude Moms?  
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