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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At least you managed five dates.  I have been alone for eighteen months now, and despite being a good looking (if not quite beautiful) woman in my late 40s, I have yet to be asked out on a single date by any man.  It is a profoundly lonely experience.

I will offer that I have not made any effort to date since my divorce, as my family's and my well being are my priority.  Also, I am not online and am referring only to those men that I either already know, meet, or come across in person in real life.   And since I do not often socialize in bars, parties, or restaurants, that is admittedly a limited group.  But still, you would have thought one of them might ask me out since they either know of my circumstances or can clearly see that I do not wear a wedding band.  Of course, some posters will suggest that I do the asking, but if a man is not even attracted enough to ask me out on a date, what is the point?[/quote]

You can’t sit on the sidelines and expect something to happen. When was the last time you met a single guy and actually flirted with him even if just mildly? If you don’t show any interest in someone they might think that you are just a cold fish. [/quote]

I was always completely faithful to, and in love with, my ex-husband during our very long marriage, and considered it disrespectful to him to flirt with other men.  In fact, because men did flirt with me, and I did not want to lead them on, (especially when I was in my 20s and 30s), I did become adept at building a sort of "wall of propriety" in my relationships with other men so that they knew where I stood. I suppose many of the men I am friends and acquaintances with came to view me as a platonic good friend, sister-type, or even wing-person in some cases.  So the answer is no, I have not flirted with anyone other than my husband since I was 21 years old, and it feels unnatural and awkward when I even attempt more personal conversation now.  I could therefore use posters' advice on flirting.  What do I say or do?[/quote]

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