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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Gosh. You women are harsh. This is high school for goodness sake. Be honest, be kind.  It’s tough being a teenager. Your advising just “no”?  What are are you gonna tell DS Larlo when he comes home after working up the courage to ask and receiving a dismissive “no”.  There’s no reason to say “no because I don’t like you that way”.

“No thanks, I’ve already accepted. . . “.  If it’s true.

Some of you are going to left gaping at the mouth when DS or DD is treated as you suggest. [/quote]

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In addition, the boy might just be asking her as a friend - no need to assume he likes her “in that way”.  Pretty presumptuous, in fact, considering lots of kids go as platonic couples.

Honestly, while I’d hate to see any kid be treated as rudely as some of these posters are advocating, I do think it would do their parents a world of good to see how hurt their own kids are when rejected rudely.  There is a kind, friendly way to decline an invitation.[/quote]

I have a daughter and a son. I have always taught my daughter to be kind but firm and to take ownership of the “no”.  So “no, thank you” or “no, I have other plans” is appropriate. Sometimes followed by a “hey, what do you think of Mr. X’s tests“ if she would like to change the subject and give them both a chance to reestablish their previous footing.

I think the “kind” people who are suggesting talking about her other plans etc are the ones that are more cruel in the long run.  And the OP’s daughter who has held on to the invitation for several days without a firm answer - that is far far meaner than a simple”no thank you”.  [/quote]

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