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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am increasingly resentful of how much I'm responsible for in my marriage. We have a one-year old.
My husband is currently unemployed, and has been for over a year.

I added everything up-- commuting, working, caring for my child at specific times so my husband can have time to job search, grocery shopping, cooking, paying all the bills, cleaning, laundry. It came out to 70 hours a week. With getting 40 hours of sleep in M-F (ha!), that leaves only 10 hours for everything else- getting showered and dressed, eating meals, etc.

What does the division of labor look like in your house? How many hours are "spoken for" during Monday-Friday? Is this what everyone does?

I'm not exercising or taking care of myself in any meaningful way. I am so, so angry all the time.

Weekends aren't restful. They're just for catching up on everything.
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Your husband should be looking for a job, but as a former stay-at-home dad, I'll say that if he is handling child care for a 1-year-old all day, that counts as hours for him. If he isn't handling the child care all day, his butt should be out looking for work. And he should be doing most of the cooking, grocery shopping, etc.

Resentment is very damaging to marriages.[/quote]

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