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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It was my name. I was an adult, not a 14 yr old stolen from her family.  I wasn't changing my name. 
And I am a SAHM.

I don't understand why people are so critical of other people's choices.  [/quote]

Do you understand that asking a question out of curiosity and being critical aren't the same thing?  I know people like you, it must be exhausting to be like that, offended by everything.[/quote]

I am not easily offended. 
There were comments here that were absolutely critical? Did you miss the pages of them???

[i]Your children aren’t part of your identity?
I have never understood refusing to take your husband’s last name as you s have a man’s name as your surname.
Right, it was your father's name and descended down the patriarchy. So, you were given a man's name when you were born. There's no shame in that, just understand that you're not really doing anything different by taking your husband's name.
It’s your father’s name. If he had a different last name then you’d have a different last name.
To me, this is the worst possible compromise and absolutely does not serve the purpose you think it does. No one cares or even knows people’s middle names.
The protocol of naming infants is far more patriarchal than women changing their name as an adult. Defaulting to the man's last name for children is PARTICULARLY unfair if a couple with two different last names. and middle names don't count. No one knows or cares what people's middle names are.
On a side note, I think it's hysterical that a bunch of grown ass women are still holding on to their daddy's name like it was some kind of emblem of feminist power. Its so weird.
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