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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What a bizarre question. I was born and given a name I liked, and one I became known by. I saw no reason to change it. My kids were given a name shortly after birth that included my husband’s last name, which is more melodious than mine. If they like it, they can keep it, or they can change it.  Why is this very personal thing of interest to anyone else? [/quote]

Don't pretend it is a bizarre question.[/quote]

Not pretending.  I find it completely bizarre that anyone would care what someone else chose to do with their name or the names of their children (unless the parents in question name their kid something gossip-worthy, like Inspektor Pilot).  Why [i]do[/i] you care?  Are you the name police?[/quote]

Everyone who is acting like this is such a complicated issue (omg! DIFFERENT NAMES!!?!) are just looking for drama. [/quote]

NP, but nope.  I think it's dumb to have multiple different names (the one who said they all have different names?!?) but you clearly don't care, which is fine, because I don't want you to care what I think.  I'm not looking for drama at all, but you seriously can't conceive of the fact that some people are curious as to why people do things differently than they do?  Like, why do some people want to live in tiny houses with six kids?  What do they find to be the benefits?  I would never consider it but I'm curious as to why they would.  It doesn't mean I'm causing drama, I'm just wondering.  You're the one causing drama by making it a big thing.  All OP did was ask a question.[/quote]

The benefit is not having to get all new paperwork and official documents. Not having to get used to signing a new name. Names don’t magically change.

There’s nothing “dumb” about it. It was important to you to have the same name, though, so the hoops (mostly) women jump through to change their name aren’t an issue for you. They were for me.

The issue of the OP was in her assumption that it’s always done out of some rebellion against the patriarchy or whatever. Hope she understands better that women choose different things for different reasons. [/quote]

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