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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am 42. I wanted out of my marriage before kids but got trapped with an unplanned pregnancy. I waited too long. 10 long years. Will be divorced within months.

But here is the thing--I am not getting remarried. Dating is not on my mind at all. If I meet someone someday, great. If not, that's fine. I can find a FWB. I am not getting divorced thinking about another husband. I will not remarry. I will not do the blended family thing. I am getting divorced with being single forever being perfectly fine because being single is better than a bad and joyless marriage. I would not divorce on the idea that I would trade up in dating. Maybe you are not doing that. But make sure you are divorcing for the right reasons.

Divorce is not necessarily expensive. Ours will be under 4k total. [/quote]

It's not the divorce, it's the cost of maintaining two households for the rest of your lives.  Right now I'm trying to help pay for my parents' assisted living and it's obvious to all of us that married, they could have a much nicer place.  Two single arrangements is far more costly and we/they just can't afford anything nice.[/quote]

I’d rather pay for two households even though my quality of life will deceasing. It will cost way more emotionally and living with regret if I do not divorce. The cost of living as a single person is worth it. I do not consider that a cost of divorce. I consider that a cost of living—which I had when I was single before marriage. The tiny benefit of finances is not worth it. Also, I work. No financial benefit to stay married. I do not care about having a smaller place.[/quote]

OMG, I would absolutely trade living in a miserable assisted living apartment with my STBX for living alone in a Medicaid nursing home. Absolutely zero question.  You anti-divorce people aren't quite grasping that divorce comes when you CANNOT LIVE WITH the other person.  I'm miserable now with him, and I can't imagine how much more miserable I would be with him in our 80s in assisted living!  WTF![/quote]

Easy to say now.  But when you get a look at what Medicaid actually funds, you may feel differently.  Some of these places are downright unsafe and shorten life span.

I'm not saying don't divorce if you really feel you need to.  But when people say that divorce is expensive, this is what they're trying to tell you.  Do it with your eyes open.[/quote]

Save your your own retirement—then it should not be a problem.[/quote]

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