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[b]But one can be both Chinese—the ethnicity—and Jewish—the religion.[/b]

DP. Here’s what I told my former SIL about the difference between her transracially adopted son and her friend’s adopted white son who is the same race. “Y[b]our child’s face tells part of his story. He can’t easily step into any shul in the US and be accepted the way Friend’s white son can. Give him options for finding community.”[/b][/quote]

This, so this.[/quote]

My father is Chinese.  My mom is Polish and Jewish.  They met in Ny.  I was raised Jewish.  My facial features are clearly Chinese.  I have always been welcome in any shul I’ve entered.  I have never found it difficult to become a part of the multiple Jewish communities that I have lived in due to my facial features.
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That’s entirely different and you know it. Your mother is Jewish. [/quote]

+1. What a dumba$$ post. [/quote]

OP's niece is adopted.  Her mother is Jewish, too.   [/quote]

You k is you are being wilfully obtuse.  Jewish identity is ttraditionally passed through blood on the maternal line.  OP’s neice’s first mother is (presumably, most likely) not Jewish.  Her adoptive mother is.  That doesn’t automatically make her Jewish, whereas being born to a jewish mother would even if she didn’t practice the faith.  Yes, that’s creepily racial/archaic but it is what it is, and it is undeniably very different in terms of Jewish identity to be born to a Jewish woman.

It really feels like some people want to completely pretend that adoption is not significant or real.[/quote]

Presumably this child was converted when adopted, because her family is planning a Bat Mitzvah for her.  So she is a Jewish child with a Jewish mother.  The implication that this child isn't REALLY Jewish is racist and gross. [/quote]

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