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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do Jewish patents with biological kids do in this situation? That is the right question, if she was adopted as a baby, this is her family. Have they raised her within the Jewish faith all along? If so, this should not be a surprise or issue. If this is coming out of left field as she approaches adolescence...then that is the problem.

The fact that she came into the family via adoption is not that relevant. I would ask religious families whose kids are resisting that tradition/culture, how they handle it.

I am an adoptive parent. [b]You blend the child’s complex heritages.  One does not supplant the other.  This is not about adoption.[b][/quote]

+1 --  Exactly.  This is not about adoption.  It could be about a learning disability, the child's feeling alienated from the community or peers at the family's temple, the child's impulse to question the tenets of her faith -- all of which I have seen with Jewish children who were (note the past tense) not adopted.  The parents certainly need to address that, but to approach this by saying, "You're (note the present tense) adopted, so you aren't really part of our family heritage"  would be hurtful and cruel and insensitive.    [/quote]

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