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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]While they were very rude to proceed with booking a weekend you said was bad--inexcusably so--OP was rude for not getting back to them within 24-48 hours.

It takes no longer than 48 hours, TOPS, to look at your calendar (which should be up to date; hello, it's the digital age), and propose a few sets of dates for your spouse to confirm. This can all happen within a few hours, and there's really no excuse why you can't get it done in a timely manner.

I bet if  your boss asked you about dates, you'd have an answer faster. If you CAN get it done for your boss, you CAN get it done for your family; who should be more important to you than your boss. [/quote]

Exactly! Why so slow OP? Did you just not want them to visit at all and they called your bluff?[/quote]

Doesn’t explain why they picked that eeekend, though.
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They shouldn't have. But in the absence of a plan, they made a plan. In the absence of information, they made a decision. I agree, that's ridiculous. But...it's not unheard of for old people to lose patience, panic/anxiety over stuff like travel, and make an irrational move like this. Depending on age, fitness, mental capacity, etc. ... yeah, you kind of have to treat old people with special care, and give them extra consideration. [/quote]

Yeah with my in-laws you have to constantly repeat information over and over to get through to them (which makes me a bit concerned that FIL is still teaching residents at a hospital, but whatevs).  They complain that they don't see us enough but are so afraid of "imposing" that scheduling a visit results in all this unnecessary drama.  Recent example:
ILs: We want to come visit sometime this fall
DH: Great! Here are a few weeks that would work for us, you pick
ILs:  OK but we want to come a week we will be the most useful
DH: We don't have much work travel scheduled, but if DW is approved for a training she would be gone X week in October.  
ILs: Let us know if her training is approved so we can make plans
DH: We would love to have you regardless.

Then they proceeded to call/text at least a half dozen times asking if my trip was approved. He kept telling them just to COME, that if my request was denied it would be next summer before it came up again.  I dunno, maybe they just don't want to see me, lol.[/quote]

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