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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We just dropped off our oldest at college that is a plane ride away. My spouse and I entered into the agreement to pay his tuition without any expectation of the university reporting his status. He turned 18 this summer. We’ve worked really hard to teach him to make good choices and how to get out of rough situations. Now we need to let go. It’s not easy. But damn if I’m going to manage this kid for the rest of my life. T[/quote]

Straw man. Nobody said anything about micro managing. OP discussed when teen is in trouble. A parent SHOULD be notified of a teen freshman is sexually assaulted or caught with drugs in dorm or in the hospital for alcohol poisoning. The secrecy WHEN YOUR CHILD IS IN DANGER is alarming. [/quote]

+1  Well said.  I would have wanted MY parents notified for any of your examples, PP, so it is completely realistic to me that my child would want US notified. [/quote]

Then your child can call or txt you. No one else is allowed to do so without your adult child's express permission.[/quote]

You want a schizophrenic person to call their parent? You realize how stupid that sounds right?[/quote]

Why would you send a schizophrenic young adult so far away from family support in the first place?  You can't expect the school to know that the kid is severely mentally ill.

I can say that most of the college kids that I knew back in the day were busy spreading their wings and would not have wanted the school calling their parents like that.  It would have been a huge invasion of privacy.

As a parent, your best bet is to maintain your line of communication with your kid and don't freak out every time they mention something happening that is less than ideal.  No you don't need to step in for them and handle things because taking care of themselves and handling life's problems is up to them now.  If they were living on their own and working full time, no one would be calling you to tell you that they were partying too much or in an abusive relationship or feeling depressed.

It's not high school part 2, it's not boarding school, it's not a supervised activity.  Your young adult college kid is now responsible for their own self monitoring.  If they need another year or two at home before they are ready to live away at college that is not the end of the world.  But don't send a shaky kid off to college thinking that someone is gong to be watching over them, because that isn't going to happen.  It will be peer pressure X 1000, new found freedom and a lot of responsibility thrown at them all at once.[/quote]

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