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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the PP who wished for a reason to have a scheduled c section instead of a VBAC. I’m aware that it’s my choice and I can make it without guilt. (No one is pressuring me into a VBAC—in fact my mom has gently suggested she thinks I shouldn’t do it and am not missing anything but stepped back after sharing her feelings. DH doesn’t care. OB is very supportive of trying a VBAC if I want but hasn’t pushed it either.)

I’m genuinely struggling with the decision and feel like fear of all the issues with vaginal deliveries mentioned here is the only reason I’d pick a c section and I try not to make decisions on fear alone.  My emergency c section was traumatic; not even seeing my dd for 12 hours and not holding her for 36 hours and leaving the hospital without her for 6 weeks was traumatic. And while none of that had anything to do with me having a c section I do hate the idea of choosing another situation where I’m physically unable to immediately hold my baby and one where I’m in too much physical pain to lift the baby or care for him myself for probably 7-10 days. I feel like I really missed out on bonding with my newborn last time and it took months to build a bond with her.  So while none of *my* reasons for hesitating to schedule a c section should impact OP since she already had a vaginal birth, it is a tough choice for me to make and I can’t help but wish it would just be taken out of my hands. [/quote]

NP. PP I have never had a VBAC so cannot speak to that, but I have had exactly the kind of emergency section you describe (yay mag!) and ended up with a second scheduled c section because they couldn't induce me at 39 weeks and I didn't want to push my luck on my preesclampsia/HELLP returning.

I had all these exact same fears, and like I said I can't speak for a VBAC but I can say that the difference between that first c and the second one was NIGHT AND DAY. Like truly difficult to even compare them. I don't know about you but I only had an epidural with the first so could feel so much. With the scheduled second I got a spinal and couldn't feel a thing and was very alert throughout the procedure. Baby #2 was handed to me as soon as he came out and I was able to hold him and bond with him while they closed me up. He came straight to the room with me and I was able to hold him and strong enough to get him out of his bassinet while in the hospital. I walked same day (morning procedure, delivered around 9am, walking by 4pm). I was able to hold and care for the baby probably from day 2 onward. It was about 10 days before I could pick up my toddler again but we did a lot of hugs. I felt like I was able to totally bond with my son so quickly in a way I was deprived with my daughter. And unlike with my daughter, I had no PPD, no delay in feeling bonded to the baby, no PTSD from the L&D experience.

So like I said, no commentary on VBAC, but if your concern is that a scheduled c will be ANYTHING like the emergency c you describe, it will not be. They are entirely different experiences and I actually found my scheduled c to be an unbelievably positive and healing experience. I am relieved to not have had to go through any type of traumatic delivery the second time because the first was really really hard. I'm due with #3 in late November and actually looking forward to my scheduled c![/quote]

Thank you for sharing your story. It’s incredibly comforting. I did have just an epidural and while surgery wasn’t exactly painful, I was extremely uncomfortable and very aware of all the pushing and pulling and tugging that was going on behind the curtain. I just remember being wheeled back to my room alone and muttering about how I didn’t feel like I had a baby and was just so overwhelmed by what I had been through. It’s really nice to hear that it can be so different and still a c section. [/quote]

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