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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Update: my daughter is converting and when she has completed the process, they will marry. It will take a year at least. She is going to sign a prenup that ensures their children will be raised Jewish.

The dinner was great and I think her boyfriend/fiancé is a wonderful man.

The only issue I have is that his mother is disappointed he is marrying a convert. I respect my daughter’s decision and their decision as a couple, and I am trying hard to be respectful of the process. I am excited but also don’t want to be question lady.  He was quite good-looking and extremely warm and welcoming and kind. He knocked my socks off! They want to have a large family, which is weird because my daughter has never expressed that desire before. I also appreciate he was honest about his mom. He said he will always love and respect his mom but he loves my daughter completely and wants to spend the rest of his life with her. I think he was worried I would be resistant but it’s not my life or choice. I will support them. 
Thanks to everyone who chimed in. I am mostly excited I am hopefully going to have some gorgeous grandchildren someday. I did think about how they will be unable to experience Easter or Christmas, but there’s lots of good things they will have in their lives and that’s all that matters. My daughter is over the moon so over the moon I go with her.

I wonder if grandchildren will think their non-Jewish grandparents are “weird?” I will do anything that encourages a good relationship with them and respect their religion and lifestyle, I hope that is not a disrespectful way of terming it.

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TBH, I see a LOT of red flags here, OP. The whole process is very unbalanced, skewing in favor of what the fiance wants. Where is your daughter's identity in all of this process? Why does the MIL think she has the right to express displeasure at all? Also, a pre-nup dictating how the children will be raised is not legally binding. It sounds like the fiance is extremely beholden to his family, and is expecting his wife to have a similar lack of boundaries.  The part about wanting to have a large family is extremely worrying too. They're both in medical school, I think you said? So is your daughter going to be expected to quit working to care for said large family? [/quote]

Same. I’m going to guess that bride and groom are not particularly religious, and that this is a cultural thing. Whatever the case, though, she’s being asked to suppress her own identify. [/quote]
Perhaps they should just live together and not marry
Marriage will ruin everything

Man seems shellfish. An agreement should benefit both sides[/quote]

Well if he is shellfish then he shouldn't ask his bride to convert, as shellfish are treyf.  [/quote]

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