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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s so weird to me that people on DCUM are so judgmental about people spending money on fancy weddings.  Posters are constantly bragging about their 6k square foot house in Bethesda, $20k European vacation, new Tesla, and kid who’s a lifer at Landon, but for some reason when it comes to weddings, everyone acts like you’re a vapid moron for having an expensive wedding.  [/quote]
It is literally a big fancy party you throw to celebrate yourself and solicit gifts. You actully might be a vapid moron if you spend 50k just to have people look at you in a white dress. [/quote]

And having a 6k square foot house is wasteful and unnecessary.  A $20k vacation is literally a self-indulgent gift to yourself.  A Tesla is an objectively inferior vehicle that people buy for the purpose of showing that they can afford a fancy car.

Why do we judge weddings differently when we’re so willing to say “you do you” for the other things?  [/quote]

I’d disagree that weddings are selfish too.

Dh and I married young. But we thought it was important to have our families there and to have witnesses to our marriage. Everything we did and paid for was for our guests. Things that were about us (photography, dress, no honeymoon suite) were done on the cheap. All that being said, our wedding was an investment in us. We were only doing it once and it was symbolic. We paid for it all. [/quote]

A wedding is not an investment.  An investment is defined as “the action or process of investing money for profit or material result.”   So, unless you married for money (as e.g. Melania did), a wedding is not an “investment.”

If what you really mean is that you view your wedding as a commitment, then yes, that makes sense. But whether you spend five dollars or $500,000 on that wedding, the commitment is the same. [/quote]

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