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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here: So when they adopt, if they choose to and their kid faces bigots and they don’t know how to handle the issue or play it off due to some other reason, then what? Ignorance isn’t bliss when it comes to acknowledging racism exist and not staying silent and allowing it. [/quote]

This is what it's about. If it's a mixed/black kid - he and his spouse need to be prepared. I would say the same thing to a White/White couple. Not to mention hair care, etc. This are skills that must be possessed by trans-racial adoptive and birth parents. I don't think Nephew needs to be taught how racism has impacted him in retrospect, he just needs some basic learning for the sake of his own kids.[/quote]
Agree.

My kids are biracial - asian/white.  And we live in a really diverse area with lots of other biracial children of all kinds. But we live in a bubble, and my kids have no idea what it is like outside the bubble. As the nonwhite parent, I have started to share with them my experiences with racism, like having the words "go back to your own country" thrown at me.  They were shocked. I let them know that one day, they may face this kind of racism.  My innocent 14 yr old said to me, "But I'm white, too".  I said, "You are part white, but you will be judged by what you look like, and you have Asian features, so you will be treated that way."  Sad.

However, I do feel that given the nephew is an adult, unless OP's nephew seeks her advice, she should not force the issue.  It's one thing to discuss general race issues with him, but I would not impose on him any supposed discrimination he has or will come across.  Ignorance is bliss, as they say.  He may also live in a bubble. If he comes across racism enough times in his life, he will get it.

Does he have any kids?  Planning to?  I think I would be frustrated, too, OP, but if he is not open to the idea that he and his children may indeed face racism one day, then there is not much you can or should do to force that reality on him.[/quote]

Well said![/quote]

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