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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]While you may not be able to control your husband gettig anywhere on time, you absolutely can control your kindergartener getting to school on time most days.  Not on base lock down days, but the rest of the time.  And those times, it will be excused, guaranteed. [/quote]

OP here. But how? I can only control myself. She's too big for me to dress and carry out the door if she doesn't want to go, and I certainly can't carry her screaming into the building. [/quote]

What happens in all other situations where you need her to comply? If she won’t wear a seatbelt do you let her make that choice? What if she refuses to take a shower? Doesn’t eat the meal you made? Won’t leave the park you took her to? Wants a string bikini at 5 and not a rash guard like you went to target to get? In all those situations you are not “in her body”’ but you find a way to get her to comply. Use those skills and strategies. People names sticker charts and punishments. Those work.

You are literally surrounded by rules. You can’t drive at any speed you want. You can’t take property without paying. You can’t drive on the sidewalk because you feel like it. Your job probably has a 100s page thick rules and regulations book for both your profession and your company. Some rules you agree with and don’t even notice. But reframe your thinking that there are “no rules” as an adults. There are millions.

You picked a job with flexibility. My job actually does care and documents when you are even 2 min late. Or if you need to leave to go to a doctors appointment. I don’t have flexibility and it’s not “just get your work done.” I chose this job knowing that because there were other benefits I wanted from my work site. You chose a school because there were some things you liked about it. You have to accept the parts you don’t. OR you look for a schoolteacher hat may not meet other needs but that has more flex on the arrival or the uniform.

And you can totally get to school 30 min early and sit in the parking lot. The highway thing is an excuse. They will not take your kids. You can’t talk to school staff but the parking lot will not be locked with a gate until 10 min before. Get there, sit, read a chapter book with your kid. [/quote]

There actually is a gate. It opens 15 minutes before dropoff begins.[/quote]

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