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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t get the angst about the birthdays.  I have a conflict such that I have been on work travel for half my 10 yo’s birthday.  I always have an elaborate family and separate friend party....just on other days when I can be there.  He doesn’t care I am not there on the actual day at all.  I call and his dad is there to take him somewhere special for dinner.  I can FaceTime him.

It really is no big deal to kids and good to teach them a birthday can be a moveable event and still be fantastic.[/quote]

Is that what happened here? Or did she just miss the birthday party and do nothing at any other time either?[/quote]

annnnd just proving the point -- she has to demonstrate the supermommy steps and exactly how she celebrated her child's 7th birthday in order to be granted dispensation to have the kind of job that THOUSANDS OF MEN DO every single day.  [/quote]

I judge those men too. Like my friend’s husband who was too busy to teach his kid to ride a bike. Don’t worry we taught him at age 15. Or my son’s friend, who sees his dad twice a year because his dad moved overseas to advance his career. Being a parent is more than providing financial support and a roof over their head.[/quote]

Check your privilege. Many mothers and fathers in other countries have to work abroad in sectors like construction, domestic work, etc. doing menial, backbreaking work so their kids can have an education and roof over their head. Giving your child hope for a better life is not a small thing, even if you can’t see them every day. They are sacrificing their own pleasure in seeing those kids grow up for the bigger picture. It’s nice you can judge but you clearly aren’t aware of the reality of how most people live.[/quote]

We don’t live in other countries. In the US we choose our career and our employer. Parents have choices, no one is forced to work a high powered job, and no one is forced to raise children.[/quote]

So no doctors, trial lawyers, activists, military officers, polar explorers, or politicians should have kids?[/quote]

Except deployed military, you need to find time to spend with your kids and make them feel a priority to you or why have them?  Some people are great at finding a balance and others are not.[/quote]

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