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[quote=Anonymous]You can’t.  You will never trust him again.  I wish that weren’t the case, but it is.  Now, that said, being cheated on is going to make you have difficulty trusting ANY man you are in a relationship, it comes with the territory.  So the real issue is you have to determine if your current situation is better than your potential future without him.

I divorced after my ex cheated. We had been together 20 years.  While I’m glad I’m done with him, because he never accepted responsibility for his actions.  Literally said things like he did it because I didn’t watch enough tv with the kids, I didn’t make him do enough charitable work, etc.  any excuse someone throws at you for cheating can be completely countered by the simple phrase “then get divorced.  Don’t cheat.”

As a single mom, romantic relationships are tricky moving forward because most men want to get married and have someone take care of them.  I’ve no intention of remarrying before my kids are out of the house.  If your partner has kids, they have their own custody schedules, baggage, and trying to combine houses rarely works.  You may be saving for your biological kids for college, and he may not.  Then it’s really awkward because the kids are being treated differently.  He may have big alimony obligations.  Or a really troublesome ex.  All these things makes second marriages exponentially more likely to fail.

I only say this to point out that yes... your marriage will never be the same.  But the future as I divorced is complicated too.  Only you can decide what you can live with.  I don’t regret my divorce at all.  [/quote]

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