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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know, OP, raising a family with your spouse is kind of like opening a small business with your best friend.  Whenever it goes well, it is really amazing.  You are with your best friend all of the time!  You get each other, and you know they have your back.  
But most of the time, it doesn’t go that well, and you end up sort of wanting to murder each other, not really, but sort of.    
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Raising children and running a household of more than two adults is the Ultimate Test of one’s character, skills, and abilities. 
One either rises to the challenge and brings one’s best to discussions, child-rearing, problem solving, and taking care of everything, the home and people other than oneself. 
OR, one shrinks back into a realm of self-centeredness and focuses on what they were conditioned to focus on when single: studies or office work. That looks good externally and gains “rewards.”[/quote]

This actually gets to some points

Some people never adjust to not being single anymore

Traditionally the woman dealt with the home and the man worked.

Now that these norms are changing you are seeing all sorts of conflict as roles are undefined and all over the place

Again the #1 solution is to communicate specifically about what kind of arrangement you want.  Ideally this happens before marriage.  Who is going to focus on career, who is going to be the primary parent etc.

If not you can still talk about it but bitching on DCUM accomplishes nothing[/quote]

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