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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How much cleaning needs to done,!? Seriously, do you vacuum every single day or something? 1x/week, right? Dishes go in dishwasher- push 1 button. Sane with laundry. Cooking - op or DJ cant possibly cook? Order out? Crock pot chicken? Take 20 minutes to bake salmon?For 2 grown capable adults? Are you people not able to function with a newborn in the house? So much so, you have to ask people to "help" you . Yea, I get it -with babies/newborns nursing 24/7, diapers, holding them, tapping their butts in hopesthey fall asleep on your shoulder, sleep deprived, but seriously between Op and the dH you cant make this work?
If you want support from family, take a different approach- "Mom, baby seems to be less fussy in the morning. Do you want to come over and take her on a walk? And if you dont mind putting her down for a nap after that would be great. I wanted to run to the store to pick up salad for dinner and catch a few minutes of a nap myself"....works much better than "mom, we are admittedly sloppy. I'm too busy holding the baby and tired to do anything about it. Would you mind cleaning up after  me and dh? Maybe, just maybe, you can hold your grandchild, but I'll have to think about it".[/quote]

OP here to (hopefully) educate you.

Hubby works 6.5 days a week—has to bring work home on weekends/go into the office (as do i) and he has a second gig. Works 12+ hour days and we had just moved into a 4 story row house in the city a month before I was placed on bedrest. And my first trimester was rough...I don’t know anyone who completely unpacks their home in a month? With only one partner who’s able to do a brunt of the work but you sound like the exception. Good for you!!

Typical day when we were in the NICU:

Wake @ 4 am
Drive to/arrive at hospital by 5 am
Pumped in car en route to hospital to have fresh milk in hand for baby
Hubby took a bus to work @ 7 am during shift change 
Mom pumped during shift change and ate breakfast that was packed at 4 am 
Back in NICU for 8 am rounds and to cuddle baby/take temps, change diaper
Sometimes docs don’t get to the “healthier” babies until 11 am. Mom sat in one spot for 3 hours.
Pumped at bedside for nurses to store milk.
Hubby arrives at 6 pm. We break for dinner together at 7.
Return at 8 pm and stayed until 10/11pm
Drove home to hit reset again at 4 am

I pumped 8x+ per day.

This just about my every day routine except when I’d pushed my body too far and would be forced to stay home and rest for a few hours.

Now, when would we be making all of this amazing food and sitting around long enough to clean anything in our new home?! ?
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Sounds like you should have stopped at sweetgreen on the way home and had a weekly cleaning service.  
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You sound as insane as OP's family. [/quote]

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