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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone raises kids differently but the trend of letting the kid do whatever they want and not correcting the behavior is going to lead to bad things down the road.

I know some will not like the example but it's easy to train a dog as a pup but if you let it poop in the house and jump on guests without correcting it, the dog will be that way for life.

That said, these are your H's family. You can't ban them. You can ask him to talk to his sibling. If he's unwilling, then you have the tough conversation. "Hey, I know everyone does it different and I'm not trying to tell you how to raise your child but we have a little one now and it's going to be confusing to our child to see your son behaving in a way our child isn't allowed to. Also, although domesticated, pets are still animals and when cornered, they will let instincts take over. I'd hate to see little Damien have to go to the hospital because he didn't understand how to safely behave around animals and how to treat them properly."[/quote]

They are his family and I’m not stopping him from visiting them or visiting in general at a restaurant/park/their house.I just don’t want the visits at my house.

For context, DH and I have been together 5 years, married for 3 and I’ve been to SIL’s house all of twice. We moved into our new house nearly two years ago and this is the second or third time SIL has been here, so it’s not abnormal in the relationship we have now to not to visits at each other’s houses.

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Oh and I need to add, they are your family now too. You chose to marry him and make his family your family. That's how marriage works.[/quote]

It is not Op's job to watch this kid and it is not Op's job to put up with this kid jumping on her furniture and being too wild around her baby and pets.  Especially when she has just recently gotten home from the hospital after giving birth and is up 24/7 taking care of a brand new baby.

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Op here.

Thank you. You summarized how I felt perfectly,[/quote]

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