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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The child is FOUR. You had to have an idea of his energy level before inviting him/his family to your home.[/quote]

Yes, wait a few years OP and you’ll be experiencing similar energy levels with your child. The real nightmare here is all of the adults. Your ILs should have controlled their child and brought toys. You and your husband should have put the pets out of harm’s way and spoken up. You should have locked the door when you were nursing. Some children become overstimulated in a new environments and act in ways they wouldn’t normally behave. It also sounds as if you don’t really like other people’s children. You need to be a little more flexible. We were in a similar situation with some friends recently with our two and four year olds, but they have tons of toys, so our children enjoyed themselves and had fun with their pets. We also kept an eye on them.[/quote]

This is how brats are raised.

If you can’t keep your 4 year old from acting like a terror at people’s houses then DONT bring them out. If your kids won’t behave without toys then it’s your responsibility to bring the toys. You don’t just shrug and say “boys will be boys” as they jump all over furniture and harass the pets.

I say this as a parent of 4 and 2 year old boys. [/quote]

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The kid is 4.  I'm not saying that the parents shouldn't have managed him better, but some kids are just more difficult than others.  When I had a baby/very young child, I would be horrified at the behavior of some toddlers/preschoolers and wonder why their parents didn't control them better.  As my kids aged, I recognize that I can only control so much of their behavior, and need to pick my battles.  They may not see getting close to the baby as something that would harm the baby in the grand scheme of things.[/quote]

sorry, had to clean that up, it was unruly.

Yes, there is only so much you can do and they did none of it. It starts by hearing the mom's words and correcting your child about putting his hands in the baby's face. If he persists, you physically remove him and sit him on your lap an ask him if he wants to see the baby or not and make sure he understands the rules. If he persists, you remove him from the situation. It's not hard. If he acts out, you say "sorry, we have to leave. Maybe we will get a sister next time." he needs to understand actions have consequences and behaviors will not be tolerated. The number of parents that let kids run around in restaurants like they are on the playground is off the charts and it's obnoxious. If I owned a restaurant, those adults would be spoken to and asked to control their child/children or leave. If I lost the business, so be it.[/quote]

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