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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think anyone was rude.  OP is a grown woman and, presumably, knew she would need someone to stay with her other child when she has 2nd child if she insists that her DH be at hospital with her.  [b]Frankly, it is stupidity on OP's part not to have thought of this very early in her pregnancy.  I have zero sympathy for her.[/b][/quote]

She's only 4 months.  Seems plenty early enough to me.

Some of you seem to think that she's due any minute and just now thinking about it.  Reading comprehension, people.

And I know enough people who have had complications during both vaginal and c-section births (hemorrhage, unexpected issues with the baby, etc) that I would be leery of giving birth without an advocate there with me.  I understand that plenty of women have done it before and will do it again, but...in OP's situation, I'd probably look into hiring a doula or flying in a family member or friend.[/quote]

She's only 4 months so she has time to form friendships, make arrangements for family/friend to come during that window, hire a doula, or get comfortable with a sitter/nanny to call in for older child. OP's first post implied that she was in a bind, i.e., that birth is imminent.[/quote]

^ This. Her initial post seemed frantic, like she was due in a few weeks. Then she later posted that she is only four months along. So she has 5-6 months to sort out a solution. So, good for thinking ahead but the dire tone was off (and shooting down every suggestion in kind of a nasty way). Everyone handles pregnancy and stress differently so we can give her the benefit of the doubt and hope she can use the rest of 2019 to either planning for a friend or family member to come to her new location to be on call; or try to make local friends who can be on call; hiring someone (a sibling doula; a babysitter; a nanny). Bottom line...she has TONS of good ideas here and also the benefit of another 5-6 MONTHS to make a plan. GL to you OP. You have lots of time but need to make a step towards a solution next. Like another PP said you can’t make a copy of your DH so he can be with you and the other one can be watching your kid. If you were due in two weeks it’s be a different story but you have half a year to make a (very simple) plan. [/quote]

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