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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you've got a lot of unrealistic expectations here.  Your sister *was* busy this weekend - she apparently had plans with neighbors.  Of course you weren't invited - [b]they have a group of friends, and you aren't automatically in it because you are related to the group.  Y[/b]ou admit you aren't close, you haven't been close, you don't have much, if anything in common, and you don't really like each other.  Given all that, why on earth would you expect to be included when she is getting together with her friends?

Moreover, if she works 60 hours a week, she's got limited time to do errands, etc., on the weekends.  Based on your description of your relationship, why would you think she would prioritize you?

Finally, if you are getting your idea of how a family should act from TV shows, that says a lot about your connection with reality.  [/quote]

OP, I don’t agree with the above poster. I have a sister, four years younger, and I would absolutely invite her to[b] any large social gathering that didn’t have a strict guest list[/b] created by someone other than me.

I’m sorry you don’t have that kind of relationship with your sister. I don’t think it’s cultural, I think it varies from family to family. But like others, I’d encourage you to go out and look for friends who want deep close bonds - the kind of people who throw Friendsgiving and stuff like that.[/quote]

But the sister DOES invite OP to large social gatherings.  Just not to smaller gatherings with one or two other families.  [/quote]

Right.  OP is invited to the parties - but that's not enough for her.  [/quote]

Do families not get together for more than parties? Am I that out of touch? I thought families (who lived close to each other) got together more often than that.[/quote]

It depends.  Like OP, you are making assumptions about how "families" behave.  I know families who get together often, and others who see each other mostly on holidays and the like.  Some families enjoy spending time together, get along, and make the effort to see each other more often.  Others don't really like each other that much, which appears to be the family that OP has.  She and her siblings have never been close, they don't like each other, and they have serious differences in how they parent their kids.   [/quote]

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